DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was flummoxed by one thing that occurred to my husband and me.
We celebrated our fiftieth marriage ceremony anniversary with a household dinner (12 of us all collectively) at a neighborhood restaurant. I ordered flower preparations for the desk that echoed the flowers in our marriage ceremony. We preordered some appetizers for everybody to take pleasure in, however left dinner and drink decisions to our friends, which we paid for.
The dinner was pretty and simply what we needed, and the ultimate invoice was in step with what we had budgeted. I will admit that, on the time, we didn’t take a look at each merchandise on the test however added a pleasant tip and went house very glad with the night.
It wasn’t till a pair days later that I regarded extra intently on the invoice and noticed {that a} guest had ordered some takeout that was charged to us. I suppose I know who it was, however it appears pointless to ask about it now.
I am positive the restaurant didn’t make a mistake, as we labored intently with them when planning the dinner and had a devoted server for the night. I didn’t monitor what our friends ordered, and we left first, so I didn’t see any takeout luggage individuals may need had.
I nonetheless can’t consider somebody would do that; nobody on the dinner was hurting for cash or meals. I’m perplexed.
GENTLE READER: That somebody would benefit from a free meal? You ought to learn extra of Miss Manners’ letters.
If you host such a celebration once more, chances are you’ll nicely inform the server that it’s all proper to flip down any takeout orders, saying, “I am afraid that our takeout and supply service is closed for this personal occasion. Our common enterprise hours recommence tomorrow.”
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I reside in what one would describe as an upper-middle-class neighborhood. My husband and I spent an excessive amount of cash to make our yard resemble a resort (together with a six-foot privateness fence) since we couldn’t go on trip the previous few years due to COVID.
It was very quiet and peaceable till new neighbors moved in subsequent door. They have 5 kids! As most youngsters do, they take pleasure in enjoying outdoors, and they’re continuously loud and screaming. I really feel as if I can’t absolutely benefit from the luxurious of my yard due to the incessant shrieking.
I work very exhausting in the course of the day as a supervisor of a surgical procedure heart and like to calm down in my very own sanctuary when I return house. Do I have to undergo in silence in order that they are often glad? What is the right manner to deal with the scenario?
GENTLE READER: Are you suggesting that the youngsters be taught not to use their outdoors voices … outdoors?
Normally, Miss Manners would suggest that you just invite the household over after which casually point out the problem (“Don’t you discover that on this neighborhood it’s exhausting to include the noise degree?”).
But with 5 of them, the dad and mom might nicely begin utilizing your oasis to escape the youngsters themselves. Miss Manners due to this fact suggests that you just spend money on noise-canceling headphones to associate with your privateness fence. Eventually the youngsters will develop up and transfer out.
Please ship your questions to Miss Manners at her web site, www.missmanners.com; to her e-mail, [email protected]; or by means of postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
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